So I mentioned in my goals post that one reason why I wanted to keep my goals simple and familiar was because my life (as I know it) was going to be turned ‘upside down’.
Not in a bad way, I was being a little melodramatic there but certainly, there will be a big change happening later in the year.
So what’s the big change?
My sister is going to be moving in and living with me.
The last time I lived in the same house as my sis was when I was 16 and she was 18. I recall desperately hoping that she would pass her A levels so that she could get into university and leave home. As teenage siblings are wont to do (or not, I don’t know about other families), we were arguing every single day and I just wanted her gone.
She duly passed her exams, left home (never to return) and I found myself missing her terribly! Since then, we’ve always got on and been close as adults, but part of the reason might be that even when we were living in the same country, she was down in London so we weren’t in each other’s faces and only saw each other for relatively short periods of time.
Of course, we are no longer hormonal teenagers (although verging on hormonal middle-aged, which could be another issue!), we’re reasonable adults but I’ve been living a carefree, quiet, (mostly) singleton life, with no responsibilities (except for myself) and all that will be changing.
Speaking of hormonal teenagers, my sis will not be moving in alone as she will have my tweenager nephew in tow.
In one sense, I’m very much looking forward to spending a lot of time with them both (in my mind, I’ve already planned days out, board game nights etc), as I love them both dearly and it’ll be good to finally have close members of the family living in the same country again.
I just don’t know how this might affect my journey to FIRE (positively or negatively).
Or my blogging – my family don’t know about this blog!
How will I be able to keep it secret from my eagle-eyed sis or inquisitive nephew!?
Long-standing readers of my blog may recall that I live in the family home. When I parted ways with my ex, we sold our house – I used my 50% to purchase a small BTL flat and moved into the family home which had been empty for the best part of ten years, my parents having returned to their country of birth when they retired early.
I pay my folks rent, which is below the market rate as I am also responsible for the upkeep and maintenance of their house.
The good news is that with my sis moving in, household bills will be shared. The bad news is that household bills will go up with more people living in the house. I can already picture myself running round the house turning off taps, timing their showers and switching off lights….
How long will they be living with me?
It’s uncertain but likely to be at least 1-2 years…
Me Me Me
I have been really selfish thus far with this post because I’m only really seeing how this will affect me and my plans for FIRE, without really considering the huuuuge life change for my sister and my nephew.
I must consider that although my life will veer from its comfortable little norm, it will be nothing compared to the massive upheaval they will be experiencing.
It’s highly likely that she’s not exactly relishing having to live with me – my sis is an extremely organised person and although I’m organised at work, I’ll admit to being probably at the other end of the spectrum at home!
Also, she has suffered from mental health problems in the past, so I need to think of her and be supportive during this stressful period of her life.
My nephew is chatty and well behaved. I have a great relationship with him, so I need to do my utmost to ensure that he settles in and remains a happy boy.
So there we have it. I’ve got a lot of work to do around the house, decluttering (sis has already been dropping big hints about Marie Kondo) and making space for when they move in.
I have until the summer to do this, which sounds like plenty of time but isn’t, knowing me and my procrastination!
How would you cope with living with a sibling again?