I recently came across an interesting article – 9 Great Questions to Ask Your Kids After School.
I thought it was interesting as I imagined asking my little niece and nephews these questions and the thought of their answers made me smile.
I believe the questions are meant to start meaningful discussions with your child/children to get them to think about their actions, to be aware of and to hopefully learn about what is going on around them.
As adults, it’s really easy (for me anyway) to switch off and go through the motions of our daily lives/jobs like robots or in Mr Z’s case, zombies.
I wondered, therefore, what my answers would be if someone asked me those questions…..after work?
So…here are my answers after a typical Monday…
1 – “Tell me about something you did well today?”
I read and actioned all new emails, so my inbox is zero.
2 – “Tell me something you’d like to do better tomorrow?”, “How will you do this?”
I would like to not be late for work because I had to spend time unexpectedly scraping ice from the windscreen of my car.
I will do this by leaving the house 10 minutes earlier.
3 – “What was your best question today?”
(to my boss) Do you have a few minutes to discuss my annual appraisal?
4 – “What problems did you solve today?”
Lots of work-related issues.
5 – “Who had the best lunch today?”, “What made it the ‘best’?”
I only saw my own lunch because I ate at my desk while I worked.
It wasn’t ‘the best’ but it was healthy!
6 – “What did you do to help someone today?”
I explained to someone how to do their job (politely).
7 – “What did you wonder about today?”, “Do you have any questions you want answered?”
I wondered who had won the lottery jackpot over the weekend.
I wondered if they were going to remain anonymous.
8 – “Who did something kind for someone else today?”, “How do you think it made those people feel?”
I don’t know anyone who did anything kind today…
9 – “What was the funniest thing that happened at
school work today?”
Two guys talking loudly about the entire plot of ‘The Hateful Eight’ film. My friend sat there with fingers in her ears and humming loudly so that she couldn’t hear what they were saying!
A Little Sad
Writing and reading back those answers made me feel a little sad – is that really what my normal day is like, what I spend most of my time doing!?
Gosh, it really doesn’t usually seem that bad but put in writing, it looks terrible, boring and so….mundane! Maybe I’ve just gotten used to it because I really don’t hate my job at all, I actually like it!
I can’t believe however that I couldn’t answer question number 8 – this one actually made me feel a little uncomfortable, that perhaps I should be the one doing something kind for someone!?
And maybe Monday was just a bad day to pick – I’m fairly certain that my answers on a Friday would be different! But thinking about it…why should a Monday be any different from a Friday?
I’m sure if I only made the effort, looked for opportunities and was more ‘aware’, I’d have given more interesting and meaningful answers.
Instead, I think my eyes were ‘wide-shut’ as I went through the usual motions at work. Like a robot. Or a zombie. Or even a robot-zombie.
I’m still a long way from FI and retiring – this can’t be all that I will do over the next 10-15 years! Can it?
Having just set my goals for 2016, I don’t want to add a new one already but I’d like to return to these questions at some point later in the year and hope to have some better answers (to all of the questions), answers which will show that I’m not just stuck in the humdrum of my working life, answers which hopefully show that I’m….living an interesting life!
Maybe I need to answer the questions when I have a day off from work but that would probably be cheating!
How would you answer these questions and how happy would you be with your answers?